For me, the urge to blame is a difficult habit to attempt to stop, especially in close personal relationship. When the mind is experiencing pain of anger and passion, bondage, and delusion, it searches to find a cause in order to find a way to escape or stop the pain. Upon close examination, I find that my mind is ultimately the cause of its own bondage, and at least some of it is unavoidable.
It is difficult to constantly remember that there is no goal and that life is its own purpose and that seeking results eventually leads to anger and sadness.
It is difficult to remember that what appears to bind the mind/body does not bind who I truly am.
It is difficult to remember that all of this serves the supreme desire; the mind/ego cannot see it; the mind/ego is not designed to see it.
I know that I will always desire that which cannot be found in the manifest, that which cannot be earned or acquired. It is this desire that causes me to search eternally for simplicity, renunciation, nature, prana, nakedness, spontaneous erections, solitude, silence, the state between inhale and exhale, the delicate and elusive state between manifest and unmanifest, and the simple feeling of desiring. It is to this desire and this desire only that I surrender.